girl sitting on hardwood floor tying pointe shoe

What Limiting Beliefs are Holding you Back?

When I was in third grade, I signed up for a basketball league. I scored the first basket for my team that season and never scored again. I hated the heated feeling all over my body from running across the court. I felt uncomfortable in my black and red Nike basketball shoes. They were tight and difficult to lace, and their shiny outer material created friction against the dusty hardwood floor, which often led to me tripping over my own feet and skidding my knees.

Needless to say, that first season of basketball was also my last. 

I tried a variety of other sports throughout my childhood and adolescent years, all with similar situations. I usually felt awkward for my lack of coordination, became easily bored at competitions, and felt unmotivated to perform better. The shoe just never fit, both literally and figuratively (don’t get me started on softball spikes).

In my middle school and high school years, I found dance and theater — pastimes that made sense to me. I didn’t have the coordination to hit a ball out of the park, make basketball hoops, or score soccer goals, but I had the coordination to do a time step and the balance to pirouette across the floor. Sitting in the dugout or on the sidelines bored me, but I was enthralled by creating a story on stage, whether I was part of the cast or the crew. Even with frustrating rehearsals, not getting roles I wanted, or not being as talented as some of my peers, I loved it. I did it because I found it fun. 

I grew up believing I was not athletic or coordinated or that I would not be part of a team environment because I didn’t enjoy playing sports. I felt a sense of guilt growing up when I didn’t “fit in” to a variety of extracurriculars like many of my peers did. I created a story in my head that all extracurriculars wouldn’t work out for me because of my past failures.

I’m glad I didn’t give up. I discovered I could do all of these things, I just had to find the right outlet for me. More importantly, the memories and friendships I created from partaking in dance and theater are some of my most cherished.

I’ve noticed I’ve fallen into those same thought patterns as an adult, whether it’s related to health behaviors, relationships, professional capabilities, etc. Many times, I’ve realized in retrospect that the stories I was telling myself were wrong. 

As a dietitian, I often hear people share limiting beliefs regarding nutrition and health, which are only intensified by the self-comparison that social media allows. 

People believe they don’t like exercising, but they’ve only tried forms of exercise that their friends like or that they read were the “best” online. Maybe they would like it if they found a form of exercise that is fun for them.

People believe they don’t like vegetables, but they’ve only ever had vegetables the way their parents prepared them growing up. Maybe they would like vegetables if they tried to prepare them in different ways; maybe they need to try different vegetables altogether. 

People believe health has a look — a body size, a kitchen pantry full of organic ingredients, whatever it may be — because of images or stories they see on social media or TV. In reality, health looks different for everyone.

This isn’t to say that there aren’t real barriers outside of our own thoughts that make achieving goals difficult, such as finances, timing, or discrimination, but rather to say — are we creating a barrier for ourselves with our own thoughts? 

All of this is easier said than done. It’s hard to change beliefs, especially if they are deeply rooted in years of repetitive thought patterns. Even so, thoughts are not facts, and they can be changed. There are many ways to eat, exercise, define health, and find happiness. What works best for one person may not work best for the next. 

What are your beliefs about yourself based on? Are they based on something someone else told you? Are they based on experiences you’ve had growing up? Are those beliefs a story that you have created based on nothing factual? 

If the shoe doesn’t fit, it doesn’t mean all shoes don’t fit. You just haven’t found the right shoe yet. 

1 thought on “What Limiting Beliefs are Holding you Back?”

  1. Awesome article Talia. As a retired music teacher, I saw this play out over and over again. Many kids found the right shoe in places they never expected.

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